What is lust and how is different from love? Intense sexual attraction is notorious for leaving common sense at the door for most normal people. Why does it have such a strong effect on us? Lust is an altered state of consciousness which is preprogrammed into us with the primal urge to procreate. Believe it or not but studies have shown that the brain reacts to lust exactly the same way as a drug addict reacts to getting a fix!
Pure lust is often the result of fantasy and pure physical attraction and a projection of what you want that person to be. It often leaves when we get to know the ‘real person’. It’s almost like wearing ‘rose tinted glasses’ when you first get together with someone and that person can do no wrong. You don’t have to have one without the other though and lust can often lead to love. Real love develops when you take time to get to know someone whereas lust can be a pretty immediate reaction on first meeting. For more fun with your partner, take a look at Online sex toys and visit Online Sex Toys
How to tell the difference? Here are some signs of lust:
- All you want to do is have sex, you are not interested in having a deep and meaningful conversation
- You don’t want to stay after sex and have no interest in talking, cuddling or staying opver
- You are lovers but wouldn’t say you are friends
- You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level and avoid discussing real life feelings
- You can only focus on the way the person looks and their body
Whereas here are some signs that you might be in love:
- You spend so much time talking you lose track of time
- They motivate you to be a better person
- You want to listen to them and make them happy
- Quality time together is just as important as sexual relations
- You want to meet his or her family and friends
It’s important to try to listen to what your gut is telling you in the early days, which can be very tricky when your hormones are all over the place. Some good tips for helping you to stay centred when you’re attracted to someone could be:
- Listen to your gut warning you to beware
- You feel drained after being together and feel uncomfortable about something
- Your passion feels dark and destruction
- You feel uneasy but are afraid to say anything in case you push them away
It’s so much more fun being involved with someone that your gut likes too! Sex and relationships will be much more open and enjoyable when you’re not worrying about suspicions and incompatibility issues. Lust is what first brings people together in a lot of cases and can lead to love, overlap with love or not lead to love at all. Lust is the initial desire to be with someone while love is the desire to stay with them. The physical attraction of lust helps us to narrow down a suitable mating partner but is more a physical urge than a mental one, which is what love is.